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Wednesday, March 1, 2023

A Hard Choice

A 9 year old perspective ...
Making the choice to forgive is hard. So is being nine years old and going to bed the earliest.   Perhaps Mama needed more grace and understanding.  Not realizing the futbol game was almost over, I instructed my Bringer of Light to brush his teeth and march upward to bed, already a half hour late.  "But I NEVER get to stay up late and I ALWAYS have to go to bed the earliest!"  As he lashed out in anger and harsh words at the one in front of him, I stepped in to soften the blow.  Grownup as he tried to be, his sleepy little red eyes couldn't hold the flood of tears at bay any longer.  Not making excuses for either party's behavior, I began to refocus his attention, stroke his brow and speak life over him from Colossians 3 ...  Adam is God’s chosen, holy and dearly loved, Adam chooses compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Adam forgives others as God forgave him and Adam doesn't hold hurt against them. Over all these good things, Adam puts on love ... like a cozy blanket.  

His eyes were closed, his breathing relaxed and a blanket of peace enveloped him.  I quietly waited thinking he was sinking into the downy abyss of peaceful sleep ... nope, just concentrating on my words!  His eyes fluttered open, "Mama, how can I do that when I don't feel it?  I HAVE to say I forgive even if I don't feel like it or I maybe might get a discipline."  Oh my precious son, that is a great question!  

In his victorious attempt to stay up later, I tucked him in with this sermonette. Ephesians 5:8 -10 says, You are light in the Lord. Live as children of light and find out what pleases the Lord.  What pleases Jesus in this situation? "to forgive." Even when it's hard and you would rather stay angry, right? "I guess".  Sometimes we need to make the choice (forgive), do the action (say I forgive you) and trust that our heart will follow.    When we make that choice, our heart softens to the other person and Jesus smiles at us.  If we choose to say no and not forgive, holding those hurt feelings like a prized possession, our grumpy attitude grows and we make other people around us unhappy too.  

I'm convinced David spoke the words, "Who is this uncircumcised Philistine (Goliath) that he should defy the armies of the living God?” before his heart was in agreement to the challenge that lay before him.  He made the choice: to stand for God.  He did the action: stood before Goliath (without doubt, quaking in his sandals!) His heart followed: he boldly spoke - "This day the Lord will deliver you into my hands, for this battle is the Lord’s!"  

In the depth of this mighty nine year old's question, and the simplicity with which Father answered, I sensed the gentle nudge that I too needed to make the choice, do the action and believe my heart would follow.  Let go of expectations that the world has piled on me (like Saul's armor), use the tools (stones) in my bag, and trust that He will guide us, satisfy our needs in a sun-scorched land, strengthen our frame, making us like a well-watered garden.

Once again, thinking he was settling into his dream world, I quietly turned to leave.  "But Mama, just one more thing, can you tell me what the score is?"  Yes my son, God: 1 and Satan: 0! 

Make a choice ... Act and trust ... See the deliverance of the Lord

Life on the Mountain
We've hosted and hosted again.  Isn't January - April to be a quiet time for the ministry?!  Cheering our beloved EAGLES on in the Super Bowl.  Enjoying the blessing of family and friends who travel to spend time sharing life with us.  A new school year started in the midst of hosting and preparing for the next guests. Tree trimmers created quite a ruckus as they felled the mighty protectors around Vidanet.  Lots of movement preparing our laundry/storage area for a remodel from a group of 20 that arrive today.  Defining new family rhythms, reinitiating morning walk/processing time, weekly communication time with two of our mighty men, El Nido events and sweet baby snuggles, mentoring, discipling and lots of facts and figures in the midst of life.  And, making the choice, doing the action and trusting our heart will follow. 

Praises
Positive start to 4th and 9th grades
Joseph loves what he is studying
Micah's team, wisdom in unexpected teaching opportunities
Family and friends safe travel and connection
Choices that honor God

Prayers
Wisdom and clear direction for our future
Jedidiah to make choices that build our trust
Staff for specific roles that need filled
Planning for Vida Missions
Wisdom for Daryl with taxes
Housing in PA for 4 of us July 15, 21-23

I stand amazed at moms who daily mix children, long hair and school!
One week of pre-school brushing and ponytail whining and this became the
"Before" ... 
And 18 months without a haircut this is the,
"After" ...
A boy with braids and a talented Belizean friend!

Moments with Mimi ...

Pop-pop reliving his youth! ...
His newest blessing for Casa Vidanet ...
Yes, this is Costa Rica ...
It's just a volcano, 9000 feet above sea level and unfortunately covered with clouds!
Pre-game excitement!
He made chicken melts for supper!
The long awaited hike with friends ...
The view did not disappoint!
4th and 9th grades, here we come! 
Beloved teachers at White Dove school in Santa Clara Honduras! ...
The Lord has given you an instructed tongue!
Tree felling is not for the faint of heart!
And, No, that wasn't an earthquake ... 
El Nido team ... sharing the hands and feet of Jesus.
Sharing life with "old" friends ...
It was a short two weeks!
But I will sing of your strength, in the morning I will sing of your love;
for you are my fortress, my refuge in times of trouble.
Psalm 59:16



 

Wednesday, January 25, 2023

At Home with The Flash

 "Home is not a place, it's a feeling."  I've had this quote from A. Smoker on our bedroom wall since we settled into life in our Costa Rica home, June of 2017.  Recently, my heart has felt muddled with longing for 'home'.  Where or what that longing is, is exactly the muddledness of my thoughts.  Is my longing something that reminds me of home?  A place that feels like home? A simplicity of life at home with 4 little boys under one roof? A particular person from home?  The Diener T'giving meal or some other random food that brings the comfort of home?  As we sent our teams to their 'new home on outreach', I've been meditating on Psalm 84 and binge watching The Flash with my 15 year old!  Ahem ... (throat clearing) ... let me redeem myself by focusing on the spiritual part of this blog ... "My soul longs, even faints for the courts of the Lord" ... the most beautiful home ever, the Courts of our Lord!  It goes on to mention , blessed are those who dwell in Your house, those who have found their home near Your alter.  I realized I was starting to feel "stuck here on Earth One".  Enter The Flash connection ... He gets to time travel to any of the 52 Earths he wants, and meet people from his past and future.  If one home doesn't make him happy, he can choose another! It's really quite absurd and almost confusing at times when two of the same person end up on the same earth.  (forehead slap!)  Anyway, as with any 'good missionary' aspiration, getting back to the Bible basics ... Longing for the peace of a Psalm 84 home, I continued reading ...

Paraphrased: Content are those who have their hearts set on pilgrimage (a trip, often a long one, made to a holy place for religious reasons), as they pass through the valley (wherever they walk really), they make it a place of springs.  And, I began to see the bigger picture of my opening quote.  No amount of longing for, time travel to another Earth, or dreaming about said earthly home (place) will ever satisfy.  

Logically, the muddledness of my thoughts on home are because I will never be satisfied here, on Earth One. : )  Home is not about where I'm called to be (place), Home is a mindset, an established set of attitudes held in my heart that create the peaceful feeling of home ... even as/especially as I'm on a pilgrimage.  It's really about an eternal perspective. Whether I'm living in CR or PA or some other God ordained place, if my heart is set on the eternal perspective of pilgrimage, my home is under the roof of His peace - anywhere.  

In life on any earth, there are decisions that loom, souls to be saved, sons that need shepherding, daughters in need of God's direction, plans to be planned, meals to be measured, base rentals and work teams to be hosted, rooms to be redone, teams that need prayed for, funds to be figured, walls to be painted, plants to be watered, and roofs that needs raftered.  While looking for the moment by moment miracles we fix our gaze eternally.  In life on my Earth One home, I will always long for greener pastures, question the difficult journey, and be left pining for peace.  Life with an eternal perspective (on a pilgrimage) ... wherever we go He will make it a place of springs!  

Pilgrimage ... Earth One is not my home ... Making it a place of springs!

Life on the Mountain
The packed full pace of December turned into the breath deep and rest for 2 weeks in January.  Six Hoovers together, our house and my Mama's heart was full of life! We basked in heavenly beach sunsets, stayed up late sharing life, puzzled, made cookies, played Minecraft and a multitude of games, and shopped on Christmas eve.  Three teams are settled in their outreach locations, Micah crossed borders on a 25+ hour journey to Honduras with his team, Joseph crossed borders and returned on a shorter journey back to PA, Jedidiah has been woodworking and Adam has read his 3rd book solo in his book nook! We mourned the loss of a Father, hosted a school team, fellowshipped with friends around our table, retreated to a cabin for 48 hours processing last year and discussing what the future might look like and ... we look to Jesus for the peace of feeling at home.     

Praises
Save travel for teams and Joseph 
Time to rest and regroup
Life at Christmas with family and friends
Amazon return outlets and bargain treasures for $1.50
Father's peace as we trust and obey
Depth of friendships with sisters

Prayers
Safe travel for my parents to CR
February is full of visitors
Wisdom figuring out taxes
Healing from headaches (Jen)
Wisdom for Micah as he leads a team
Peace for Joseph with a challenging semester of college
Friendship for Jedidiah as he starts 9th grade
Adam to bring Jesus' light to friends around him


My baby holding babies!  
Joseph's first semester at Thaddeus Stevens was rewarding ...
Deans list and Best of Show on his Compressed air engine!
 
"I feel like I'm going to the Prom! ...
Nah, it's just a Christmas party" : )
Cutting garlic for Mom ...
Or is he just testing out his new snorkel goggles?!
Staff Mall hunt ...
Yes, Daryl has a mullet ...
Yes, we laughed ourselves silly ...
Yes, they found all of us but Adam!
This is how we make Christmas Tamales for our VidaNet family of 50+!
Not sure what language works best ...
Russian, English or Spanish! 
The phrases were shallow but the heartfelt love was deep! 
My happy place where they play and laugh together!
It wouldn't be our normal Christmas picture without these festive add-ons! 
Cookies and a puzzle ... 
These boys know how to bless Mama's heart!
Shop class with G'pa Byler!
Playing life while contemplating life ...
Parents were not allowed to play, this is a boys game!
"One more" ...
Mom's famous saying about pictures!
One more treasure for this Mama's heart!
When Amazon Return Outlets offer treasures for $1.75 ...
It becomes a YES day! 
Pray for these precious Vida220 teams ...
Honduras team
Costa Rica team
Spain team
It is good to praise you Lord, and make music to Your name;
to proclaim your love in the morning,
and your faithfulness at night!
Psalm 92:1-2

Monday, December 5, 2022

Fruit

Thankful for this mighty brood!
The sweet, fleshy product of a tree or plant that contains seed and can be consumed as food.  The biproduct of a healthy, growing, thriving agricultural item.  And one more for the medically minded, (specifically the Labor and delivery nurse) ... A fruit is a mature, ripened ovary, which includes the ovule-bearing reproductive structure in the plant flower ... what can I say, I'm passionate about reproducing life!

If one nurtures or cares for said tree or plant, it will produce a delicacy so irresistibly sweet your mouth is salivating just thinking about it! Waiting a year for a pineapple to produce ... soooooo ridiculously long that I take for granted the fact they are plentiful year-round in our climate!  Speaking of patiently waiting, let's talk peaches and mangos. Dear God, why can't these mouthwatering, nature's bounty be as plentiful as apples and bananas?

I've been pondering another sort or fruit.  The melt in your mouth, drip down your chin, sugary sweet fruit of ... repentance.  Did your taste buds immediately turn into a lip puckering sour stance?    Logically in my mind, repentance = needing to turn away from a wrong I did, a rearranging of my thoughts in another direction, and regret or remorse. I don't rationally think, "Oh I can't wait to sink my teeth into a big juicy bite of repentance!" I would much rather feast on love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.  These fruits leave me longing for more of said delectable fruitiness. 

What if this concept of a six-step apology was as natural as breathing, or as natural as the fight or flight response, or as natural as tripping or slipping for the hidden cameras of Americas Funniest Videos?  What if repentance would happen without a second thought?  Would we not be experiencing a little taste of Heaven here on earth? 

I know.  The digging to expose the roots, the stink of the fertilizer ... "No God, it hurts too much.  That is too uncomfortable, I don't want that exposed.  No God, I don't want anyone to see that. I can't admit that, what would they think ..."  He gently whispers to the depths of my soul, "The fruit of your repentance makes the fruits of My Spirit so much sweeter.  Discipling others starts with humbly acknowledging your own need of repentance. My hands and feet will smell much sweeter bearing the fruit of repentance."  Speaking to the 'little white lies' and what feels like 'the black mark on our souls'.  Freedom awaits! Would you care to feast on the savory sweetness of repentance? Our marriages, parenting, ministries and lives depend on this life-giving fruit. 
 
Humble repentance ... Fruit of freedom ... Pure redemption


Praises
Wise counsel and time to process next steps
3 Teams announced, God unite them!
A successful year of school and first semester of college
Connections and a job for Joseph
Daily treasures that fix our gaze on Father
Tropical fruit year-round

Prayers
Team unity and preparation for outreach locations
Six Hoovers under one roof for 2 weeks in December
Heart connections for Jedidiah
Connecting with new neighbors
El Nido Christmas parties, let them see Jesus
Root exposure, repentance, freedom

Obligatory fall pictures to bless Mom's heart!
Adam Luke, 9 years
Jedidiah Lynn, 15 years
Joseph Andrew, 18 years
Micah James, 19 years
Micah's team to Honduras!
Two other teams heading to Spain and northern Costa Rica!
Cheering on CR in the World Cup!
Celebrating good grades in their second language! 
These two clean up well!  ...
Mud run 2022 in the books!
Of course they needed an annual picture ...
The beautiful women in our family ...
We may have just beat the mighty men in our escape room!
These dear ones fill my heart with mother/daughter bonding ...

I have no explanation ... 
Maybe he was hungry from bread? 
(stopped at our local bread store!)
By far, my most favorite T'giving picture of all time! 
Romans 15:13
May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him,
so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.